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IVF Indecision is a Decision

Written by Arpee on September 22, 2008 – 12:11 pm -

I don’t even know if that title makes sense…. but it has been almost a 7-week break…

We have our consultation appointment with DrH on Tue. I hope she received the set of questions and I hope she has read them.

Meanwhile, I have a new friend (who turns out to be a fellow infertile) and she said that sometimes, less options are better. In our confusion and indecisiveness, I could relate to that because our choices are now boiled down to these 3 -
1. IVF
2. Adoption
3. Child-free

Narrowed down. And yes, there are still 3 options.

I heard something from someone that the “cure to confusion is action. Do something and fail. Or do something and succeed. It removes the ambiguity. Whether you fail or succeed, you are moving forward since you are eliminating alternatives.”

Should we do IVF for the increased probability (still a probability, still not a guarantee) of having our own biological child?

Should we go through what is humanly possible before we accept that our “only hopes” are to either adopt or to be childfree?

Should we make the decision to be child-free NOW (without trying IVF)? And save ourselves from heartbreak and the heavy financial burden? Should I resign myself to the “death of a dream” now?

My biggest fear for the last option is that I will regret not knowing whether we could have had our own child had we tried IVF. The many “what-ifs”….

We have decisions to make and we are vaccilating up to the last minute.